You Don't Really Know Me

Norton, 2004. Trade Paperback. As New. As New - May Have Minor Shelf Wear To Edges. - For More Information On Condition. Please See All Photos. - What Do Teenage Girls Really Want From Their Mothers? British Psychologist Terri Apter Offers Uncommon Wisdom About The "Tricky Equation" Between A Daughter's Identity And That Of Her Mother. Challenging The Idea That Girls Want To Reject Dear Old Mom, Apter Suggests That Most Battles Between Mothers And Daughters Are Fought To Transform The Relationship Rather Than Trash It. Arguments Become A Daughter's Way Of Asking Two Essential Questions: "How Can I Get My Mother To See Me The Way I Am Or The Way I Want To Be?" And "How Can I Keep This Important Relationship Up-To-Date And Useful To Me?" By Focusing On How Daughters Can Remain Attached To Their Mothers As They Grow, Each Chapter Underlines Conflict As Means For A Daughter To Define Herself. Apter Avoids Generalities And Targets Smart Specifics With Examples, Strategies And Sample Conversations. She Offers An Anatomy Of A Mother-Daughter Meltdown, Nails Four Patterns Of Teen Lying, And Offers Guidelines For Dialogue About Rules And Risk Assessment. She Explains How To Navigate Food Fights, Discouraging Words, Harsh Hyperbole ("You Are Ruining My Life!") And The "I Know That Already" Sex Talk. Battle Fatigued Mothers--And The Daughters Who Want To Love Them Without Leaving Them--Will Welcome Apter's Hopeful, Insightful Approach.